By all means, I encourage you to try having those discussions and to make a mental note of when you would choose to walk away instead. But that was also a possibility if he had married a non-mormon.
You should start raising CES letter issues with her and see how she handles it. That's the difference - marrying for love vs marrying for a paycheck. After 15 years vrom marriage, I'm so used to living a separate life with our 3 kids.