As a non member you can not take her to the celestial kingdom to live with God and get your own worlds to populate with her. It is hard work. It sounds like you HAVE done your best in the past.
I was lucky with my TBM.
I thought I was very understanding and, while I did invite her out at other times, I was very clear that her studies were paramount and I wanted askihg support her as best as I could during this time.